when asked what they wanted to do with their lives, her children answered “to love Jesus the best that we can.” and i wondered her secret, the secret of the mother behind these voices. she insisted, “nothing! i just pray.”
but then i learned this: when her youngest, who’d lost a friend, stopped talking for a week, she cancelled all of her appointments and cleared her schedule so that “when he decides to talk, i’ll be there to listen.”
when he decides. i’ll be there.
there’s so much to this role of parent, but this, i think, sums up the kind of love we’re all looking for: the kind that lets go, but never leaves.
she let him decide when he was ready to talk, but she swept everything else off the table and sat, waiting, for him to decide, and he knew. he knew that, by her doing this, he was her life. her children were her life. her number one ministry, and isn’t this what we all want? to be loved with this kind of love? the kind that longs for the best for us, the kind that has another life but is willing to die to it in order to help us live?
there’s no way to save your child from the pain. many will be forced to see things, to learn things, to know a kind of pain far too mature for any child, and there’s no way to stop this. the world will enter your home. but you can choose to be there when it does. sitting, waiting, and letting your child be the one who decides when to talk.
as Christ does, for us.
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**PS. friends–just wanted to let you know about a great conference next month for those impacted by eating disorders and body image issues. i’m speaking at it, and can tell you it will be a great time of learning and inspiration for professionals and community members alike. this year’s theme is “A Family Affair” so we’ll be getting into all those fun family dynamics, and learning how to love well in the process of treatment and recovery. it’s at the Glen Eyrie Castle in Colorado Springs June 15-18. click here to see a slideshow from last year, see this year’s schedule, and to register. and if the only thing that’s keeping you from going is funding, let me know!